intimate details of the new age single girl
May 30th, 2008
ok ok, so i know that this is harsh and probably not something that i should be doing, but here goes…
i’ll first make things better by making a bit of a confession. having been single for a while, i was discussing the situation with my friends - explaining that bars just aren’t the right places to find someone and when you work for a small company you’re never going to find someone in work. it was at this point that one of my friends suggested i try an online dating site. now, i’m aware of the stigma attached to those sites and i said no at least for the first 8 times she suggested it.
on the 9th time though i broke and agreed to sign up to a site, but refused to post a proper profile or a picture. i just wanted to be nosy and have a gander. 5 minutes after signing up i get an email from the chap above telling my how pretty my picture is and he can’t believe that i’m single.
worried that i had accidentally posted a picture, i check my profile and there’s definitely nothing there. then i read the email again and it’s very generic which is when it struck me that it was an email he was cutting and pasting to all of the girls on the site. needless to say i didn’t respond.
so here’s a word of warning for all of you guys and girls out there - if you’re going to send a generic email, check the content first and make sure it’s relevant and if you really want to push the boat out, maybe even use their name… on a side note, having posters on your walls (including one of ghostbusters and another of a girl in a bikini) is never going to help your case.
i think i’d rather remain single thanks - the quickest signup and withdrawal from a site ever 
m x
p.s. imagine how awful it would be if he found my blog! it’s never going to happen is it, but imagine…!
May 31st, 2008 at 12:08 am
Mel wtf are you doing on those sites? There’s a bazillion guys that would give their right arm to go out with you. Yes, your company might be small, but you’re in an industry where there are so few girls and none of them hot like you either. Seriously take a look at yourself and please put this right.
May 31st, 2008 at 1:39 am
A couple of my mates have tried dating sites (with varying results) although it’s never been something I’ve been too keen on. As you say, it’s next to impossible to find people in bars. A few beers + robot dancing = not attractive (apparently :P). I’m led to believe that the best way to meet people is through friends of friends. A good friend of mine who moved to London from Kerry and knew nobody is now with someone a year and he met her via a friend in work.
May 31st, 2008 at 12:10 pm
I suppose I should take down my Alex Ross Justice League artwork then… Seriously though, if _you’re_ signing up for dating websites and not getting anything but spam, the rest of us are all doomed.
June 1st, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Mel, maybe you just happened to be seen by the Hamburgeler….
June 1st, 2008 at 8:32 pm
MikeyP - ok ok calm yourself. you’re kind but i fear a little deluded, otherwise i woudn’t still be single
Anthony - I better go make some friends with hot friends then…
Luc - I’m sure that you’d have more luck than me!
Luke - yeah it was actually the hamburger above anything else that put me off, lol
June 4th, 2008 at 3:12 pm
Hey Mel,
I Just happened upon your blog. I’ve just been bullied recently into blogging more and was on the hunt to find out what on earth people write about!
Although, Like the rest, I am truly shocked your single, I can understand why. As I get older I’m finding it harder to meet new people, it was all so easy back in uni. When do I get a chance to go out, I want to spend the time catching up with friends and the prospect of propping up a bar in some desperate attempt to bump into my dream woman is just not appealing. So in order to put my singleton days behind me, I too was convinced to signup to a dating site.
My good friend Kate added me to MySingleFriend.com (its a site where your friends write your profile, set everything up and get you going). You can hardly say no after someone has just written you a glowing report.
I used the site 2 years ago and met someone great. A year later and I find myself back on the site and having a great laugh ( http://www.mysinglefriend.com/detail.php?|=zghghijefab ). You do get taken more seriously if you upload a photo and if you treat it as just a way to meet new interesting people, you at least leave with some hilarious stories to tell. Incidentally I still try to meet people the old fashioned way, but the reception of building where we rent space just doesn’t seem to have the quality of ‘temps’ it use to
June 4th, 2008 at 4:19 pm
Historically speaking - I found that my “online” picture equates to negative clicks… - wait…. could that be true????
http://www.gregbeidleman.com
June 5th, 2008 at 11:12 pm
Jeremy - Totally with you there - I go out to be with my friends and dance like a loon - probably not the best way to impress. I’ll have a look at MySingleFriend.com - although I fear I might need to make a friend first
Greg - I’m sure that isn’t true